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What NOT To Do At a Funeral/ Memorial Service

Here is an example of what NOT to do whilst at a funeral or even a memorial service, especially if you are Head of State. Look at Michelle Obama's facial expression and body language. The fact that she looks so sick shows her disapproval of the antics being displayed by the three Heads of State: David Cameron ( Prime Minister- UK), Helle Thorning-Schmidt (Prime Minister- Denmark) & Barrack Obama (President- USA).

In a technologically savvy world, it is wise to be able to use a smartphone. You connect with many across the globe through social media. It is also wise to choose where and how you choose to use your smartphone. Funerals and Memorial Services are a deeply serious affair. It therfore requires self restraint, in an attempt to pay homage to the one who has passed. When a public figure as huge as Nelson Mandela who is loved by many and is recognised for his contributions has passed, it would obviously become a State affair. Now, when the State is involved, it inloved all Heads of States who are in attendance which ulmitately means the stictest and remarkably highest standards of etiquette and protocol. As Heads of State, you are required at all times to exercise an insane amount of self restraint and a funeral or memorial service is definitely a place to do so.

A funeral or memorial service is a time that should be spent reflecting on the person, the deeds of tho one who has passed and share in the overwhelming sadness of the family who has lost. Taking a "selfie" at the wrong time just shows how callous a person is by displaying complete disregard to the seriousness of the affair and those around you even though this was never your intention in the first place. It also shows disregard of manners and good behaviour.

So when can taking a "selfie" can be done during a funeral or memorial service? The rule is: only before or after the service is over and not during. Therefore, let us all ensure that we observe this simple but increasingly overlooked part of etiquette eventhough we are just regular people and not Heads of State. Let it also be a lesson to others who have chosen a path of life or career where they are often exposed to the whim of the public, cameras, photographers and journalists. When you are going to an event where your behaviour and gestures are bound to be observed, just be aware and display your best. We all have our moments where we would love to goof around, but there is a time and place for everything.

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